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Matt Holtom
Mar 30, 2022
In Mindset
...They May feel like it, after all its something outside of yourself to achieve right? That could be the obstacle that's constantly holding you back. This mindset that your health and fitness goals are not you. When we move away from the Static numbers and Targets after they've been set. Such as a specific weight / body fat / size. (The what) which we are all very good at setting ourselves. It allows us to turn our mind to a deeper more meaningful question. 'Who?!' The who being YOU. back this up by the 'why' and you've got a great map of possibilities open up. (i've touched on 'your why' previously. In this edition we get to look at the WHO) YOU are not outside of yourself as your goal / target / aim suggests on the surface. The who in relation to your goals is 'who is the type of person that achieve the goals I have?' The who being you means this question reads as 'who do I need to be to achieve my goals?' This doesn't have to be an heroic turn of character or becoming a different person but it does allow you to compare your current lifestyle decisions to the ones that are desirable and more inline with your goals. Look for commonalities, where you can make positive changes with the least resistance first of all. Become confident in them and as your confidence grows look to other alterations you can make. If i had to put this into one sentence i guess it would read something like... LIVE the lifestyle of the person you are trying to become! Live the process. In relation to foods, drinks, exercise and activity, lifestyle, hobbies, social situations. bed time, sleep time... Life. It all counts. Want to drop body fat? know what affects it and live like it for a required time Want to get fitter? know what the variables are and live like it for the times required. Living in the present and the lifestyle of the person you want to be is in the here and now which then progresses you day by day to the goals you're aiming for If you've been with me or following me for a while. I always encourage saying NO. Or more specifically stop saying yes to every offer, every suggestion every request. Usually at the expense of yourself. Life is challenging at the best of times so Take more opportunities than you miss! The missed ones can be learnt from going forwards.
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Matt Holtom
Oct 17, 2021
In Mindset
The feeling i think its fair to say everyone wants, craves and in various ways chases every day. but lets dive a little deeper into the often elusive feeling. That seems to come and go at random intervals and our reactions to try to retain in. in evolution happiness is tied to reward / success. Pretty good idea since survival used to be at stake. back in cave man times we do things to survive and so our bodies had to make us keep doing those things. from biologys perspective of those happy ‘feelings’ is the release of a neurotransmitter called dopamine. when Dopamine surges happen results in pleasure, euphoria. which is then often the feeling we chase... from a behavioural perspective this leads us to creating relationships between certain things or actions and the resulting pleasure or perceived happiness but consider this. pleasure is pleasure, happiness is happiness. sure they linked. but not the same. in todays world. People are all over social media chasing likes and attention… for that ‘happy feeling’ aka dopamine hit. aka happiness Continuously. people turn to food for happiness people turn to alcohol for happiness people turn to drugs for happiness people turn to tech for happiness so on and so on But consider different forms of happiness. Just like dietary fat and stored fat arent the same but sre both refered to as the same. theres the moments in our day to day lives that make us a little happier. but that doesnt mean we are happy. That also doesnt mean we are only happy when good things happen or go our way that day. happy people can have bad days too. Happy people can be sad, get annoyed and angry. So then what actually is happiness? now consider whats the opposite of happiness? is it sadness? (nope) i believe its opposite is indifference. indifference is non commital. Which is ‘meh’ which is boring, uninspired, flat… nothing to excited or motivate so whats the opposite to indifference? i believe it to be purpose. think back to the last time you was flying high in life. I bet you was motivated because you had purpose, intent and conviction towards what you wanted and took action to work towards it. At the same time everything seemed fo be going your way. that then leaves clues that happiness is in fact purpose! happiness is a state of being not a moment of pleasure. so it stands to reason that a state of being with purpose, is a lifestyle thats includes taking action and is content with efforts. Continued learning, failing, trying and progressing. back to fitness… this is why a number of the scale will never be enough or good enough. Happiness isnt a number, even if you hit a number your lifestyle is still the same. this is why progress IS the goal and not perfection. REAL ACTUAL HAPPINESS IS PROGRESS heres some points of established educators i find to be great reminders of how to be happy: ‘remember life happens for you, not too you‘ - tony robbins picturing yourself retired on a beach with a pina colado isnt happiness, its a photgraph, its a moment In the rest of your life, it isnt happiness’ - dr jordan peterson
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Matt Holtom
Apr 29, 2021
In Mindset
We are all only human. We often can only see whats directly infront of us. Evolution saw this as a good survival strategy. to be able to respond in the moment. as weve come along way from battling for survival against predators and cave living our makeup and brains wiring hasnt really changed much. as a result we often get caught up on the little things. heres a clip discussing how to alter your view point to help you keep or get back on the correct path mentally. https://youtu.be/lx5JIThUcnw Better Bodies HP “bringing the human element back to health and fitness”
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Matt Holtom
Mar 10, 2021
In Mindset
in the Facebook group i ask you what other words you could use in place of motivation. Some popular and common alternatives came up. Drive Committment Determination Passion Focus Pressure Powerful words when it comes to it they evoke a call to action from us. My latest ponderings have led me to think that maybe we as a whole are desensitized to the call to action or power of the word motivation. Its too used, too common. Too broad, too vague, watered down and often used as an excuse rather than in a place of progress as it perhaps should be. Its almost as if the word motivation should be on the negative pile unlike what the words represents. Its used as a phase of what a person doesnt have rather than what they do have. Ive been thinking lately that the broad stroke umbrella term actually is stetched too wide and there are many levels and sub levels to motivation that if we turn our attention to may serve us better. Its clear that in the modern age motivation is never enough. Whats not so clear is pinpointing where it is and how we keep hold of it. For long enough bouts to make a real progress Maybe its a group or collection of things (those words weve described) in varying degrees and % to make the whole. Heres some words id use interchangably with motivation. Structured Clarity / clear Arousal Keep with me on that last one! It seems nature has integrated a motivation in our dna and that is to reproduce, keep the species and genetics alive. Via our hormones, impluses and sensations. So its a type of motivation. Unconscious but its there. Where as the other others seem to be conscious our doing... by thinking. Before we steer too far off topic with that one! I have a suggestion for you even a challenge... Since i always encourage better questions because they receive better answers. When you tell yourself things like i dont have motivation... I cant find motivation... i need to find my motivation... (These are searching questions or statements) Improve upon them. By replacing the word motivation with your chosen alternatives For example: Im not motivated could be Im not committed Im not focused Im not determined Im not clear (on the goal or path to goal) Im not driven (Granted the aroused one doesnt fit all circumstances haha) And so forth Do these statements hit the core of your mindset more? Im not dedicated. Hits deeper than im not motivated. Which then can lead us to a better question of why... when you know your why youre in a better position to make change. In doing so creates a bigger call to action. The next time you find yourself questioning your motivation. Replace it and see how it makes you feel* *note: the aim of the exercise isnt to beat yourself up. Its to give your a mental shake down and spring you into action 💪 Let me know your thoughts
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